It is not a secret that I am over weight, I have been the
majority of my life. It has been a battle through the years but
now I am comfortable in my own skin, I love me for me not because of what I weigh. My husband loves me unconditionally and my family for the most part accepts me for me. I know it does bother a few of them but they are just worried about the health risks. I go to the doctor on a regular basis and he tells me every time he sees me I am the healthiest fat person he has ever seen. So I am good. Really, I am happy the way I am I am not going to starve my self, or worry my self to death at the gym. I have started cutting back on a few things just to combat the fact that I am not working and possibly not getting as much activity as usual but, nothing drastic.
Any way... on to what really pissed me off yesterday... had his children not been with him I would have told him how the cow eats the cabbage. I was leaving walmart yesterday and a guy I went to school with came walking out in a bright yellow shirt that said “NO FAT CHICKS”. Now, I usually just shrug off peoples ignorance but for some reason this struck a cord with me like it has never before. In my opinion he was degrading all women. What an example he was setting for his son? Not only that but this guy is Married and his wife over the years has weighed more then is socially attractive on her frame from time to time. Even more he has two daughters and at least that many sisters and his sisters are just as plump as can be. He might as well be walking around in a shirt that said KKK, or I hate Indians. It's hate and the world has enough of it. So don't contribute to it DUH! Now, he probably has no idea how offensive that shirt actually is or maybe he does and he is just trying to be a mean jerk. I am okay, I'm not going to kill my self over it, but I do know girls that are not as confident in the body as I am. There is far to much emphasis put on weight and what size one should be. Every one has issues with their body type it is NORMAL. Be confident in who you are find your happy place and enjoy it, but don't complain about it if you aren't doing any thing to make it better. You are not going to loose weight or firm muscles by setting on the couch. If you want to change to be happy then do so but if you want to be fat and happy do that to, what every you do rock it out. I truly do owe my confidence to my husband though he loves me so and tells my that I am beautiful everyday. There are many girls out there with out the support system in place and crap like that guy was wearing is what makes them scared to be confident. I am all for being able to have your own opinion and the right to print said opinion but as long as it does no harm unto others. Basically don't be a douche because words hurt.
Great post. Hate comes in all forms. There are two things (out of many) that I love about you: your positive attitude and the fact that you and I are two of the only people who use the term "how the cow ate the cabbage".
ReplyDeleteYeah, I lol'd at "how the cow ate the cabbage..." Funny stuff!
ReplyDeleteYou're absolutely right: everyone struggles with body image. I've got my own issues and over the years I've tried to become more sensitive to the struggles of others. It's easy to let a comment slip that you don't think will affect someone when you're not paying attention - but it turns out to be something that is actually really harmful.
This is true in all areas, not just in body image. It is socially acceptable to call someone a retard, but do that in front of a mom whose daughter has downs syndrome and I bet some feelings are going to be hurt.
It's important that we are aware of what we're saying and who it could affect before speaking, and it's important to remind people of that when and where we can. I'm so glad you've decided to start a blog and get your thoughts out there. It can be a really freeing experience. I know I'll be reading. :)
<3 you, friend.